Remember a little while back when I wrote about my three strikes of dating? Well, the pattern continues. Another potential suitor is all washed up. This time we had two failed dates and one actual date (which could make it two balls and one strike, but that sounds really wrong.) And we’d seen each other at his place of employment quite a few times, so it could safely be said that we’d known each other about 5 months. I was optimistic about this guy. And he is a nice guy. But. Nope. Sigh. No chemistry. And although I had an almost impossible time passing it in high school, chemistry is very important to me.
Not that I’m pining. When the time is right, everything will fall into place. Over the last two weeks, I’ve been pretty happy with my alone status.
I just noticed that being with the wrong person makes you more lonely sometimes than being alone – especially if you know what being with the right person feels like, and how happy that makes you feel.
Made me feel.
But if he’s not here anymore, then he’s not the right person. Right?
Sigh…
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July 3, 2011 at 7:14 am
TBM
I agree with you. If there isn’t chemistry you can’t force it. I’ve found that love strikes when you aren’t looking for it. And it is worth waiting for.
July 3, 2011 at 7:55 am
slpmartin
Being with the wrong person would seem to make anyone feel more lonely…it would be like being stuck in one of those long boring conversations with no way out.
July 3, 2011 at 10:33 am
Seasweetie
Smile and nod and try not to look at your watch, right?
July 3, 2011 at 8:49 pm
TheIdiotSpeaketh
Patience!……When you least it expect it….. Mr. Right will came blazing out of nowhere and will accidently run you down with his snowmobile and the rest will be history!…..
July 3, 2011 at 11:49 pm
Seasweetie
I think I’d prefer it if he ran me down with his surfboard, id, but I’ll take your word for it.
July 5, 2011 at 7:38 pm
pamsplanet
You’re absolutely right. If the person you thought was the “right” person is no longer there, then he WAS NOT the right person.
For me, it has been a difficult thing to realize the fact that I fell 100% in love with what turned out to be a tiny part of a person. By that I mean, I did not know there was this other giant part of him that didn’t really need me or could CHOOSE to live a life without what he and I had found together. I unveiled all of myself to him, but he only showed me the part that he wanted me to see. The part I saw was GOOD, but the part he chose to keep (and live) is not a man that I would or could love.
Love carries with it certain promises and responsibilities. He failed, my friend, not YOU.
July 5, 2011 at 8:01 pm
Seasweetie
Thank you, Pam.